1. The reflections we are
developing in the present cycle refer to the words which Christ
uttered in the Sermon on the Mount on man's lust for woman. In
the attempt to proceed with a thorough examination of what
characterizes the man of lust, we went back again to Genesis.
Here, the situation that came into being in the mutual
relationship of man and woman is portrayed with great delicacy.
The single sentences of Genesis 3 are very eloquent. In Genesis
3:16 God-Yahweh addressed the woman: "Your desire shall be for
your husband, and he shall rule over you." Upon a careful
analysis, these words seem to reveal in what way the
relationship of mutual giving, which existed between them in the
state of original innocence, changed after original sin to a
relationship of mutual appropriation.
If man in his relationship with
woman considers her only as an object to gain possession of and
not as a gift, he condemns himself thereby to become also for
her only an object of appropriation, and not a gift. It seems
that the words of Genesis 3:16 deal with this bilateral
relationship, although the only thing they say directly is: "He
shall rule over you." Furthermore, in unilateral appropriation
(which indirectly is bilateral) the structure of communion
between persons disappears. Both human beings become almost
incapable of attaining the interior measure of the heart,
directed to the freedom of the giving of oneself and the nuptial
meaning of the body, which is intrinsic to it. Genesis 3:16
seems to suggest that it is often at the expense of the woman
that this happens, and that in any case she feels it more than
man.
2. It is worth turning our
attention now to this detail at least. It is possible to
perceive a certain parallelism between the words of God-Yahweh
according to Genesis 3:16, "Your desire shall be for your
husband, and he shall rule over you," and those of Christ
according to Matthew 5:27-28, "Everyone who looks at a woman
lustfully...." Perhaps it is not a question here of the fact
that the woman especially becomes the object of man's lust, but
rather that—as we have already stressed previously—"from the
beginning" man was to have been the guardian of the reciprocity
of donation and its true balance.
The analysis of that
"beginning" (cf. Gn 2:23-25) shows precisely man's
responsibility in accepting femininity as a gift and in
borrowing it in a mutual, bilateral exchange. To take from woman
her own gift by means of concupiscence is in open contrast with
that. The maintenance of the balance of the gift seems to have
been entrusted to both. But a special responsibility rests with
man above all, as if it depended more on him whether the balance
is maintained or broken or even—if already
broken—re-established.
Certainly, the diversity of
roles according to these statements, to which we are referring
here as to key-texts, was also dictated by the social
emargination of woman in the conditions of that time. (The
Sacred Scripture of the Old and the New Testament gives us
sufficient proofs of this.) Nevertheless, it contains a truth,
which has its weight independently of specific conditionings due
to the customs of that given historical situation.
3. As a consequence of lust,
the body becomes almost a "ground" of appropriation of the other
person. As is easy to understand, that entails the loss of the
nuptial meaning of the body. Together with that, the mutual
belonging of persons—who, uniting so as to "become one flesh"
(Gn 2:24), are called at the same time to belong to each
other—acquires another meaning. The particular dimension of the
personal union of man and woman through love is expressed in the
word "my." This pronoun, which has always belonged to the
language of human love, often recurs in the verses of the Song
of Songs and in other biblical texts.(1) In its "material"
meaning, this pronoun denotes a relationship of possession. But
in our case it indicates the personal analogy of this
relationship.
The mutual belonging of man and
woman, especially when they belong to each other as spouses "in
the unity of the body," is formed according to this personal
analogy. As is well known, an analogy indicates at the same time
a similarity and also the lack of identity (namely, a
substantial dissimilarity). We can speak of persons belonging to
each other only if we consider such an analogy. In its original
and specific meaning, belonging presupposes the relationship of
the subject to the object, a relationship of possession and
ownership. This relationship is not only objective, but above
all "material"—the belonging of something, and therefore of an
object to someone.
4. In the eternal language of
human love, the term "my" certainly does not have this meaning.
It indicates the reciprocity of the donation. It expresses the
equal balance of the gift—perhaps precisely this, in the first
place—namely, that in which the mutual communio personarum is
established. If this is established by the mutual gift of
masculinity and femininity, the nuptial meaning of the body is
also preserved in it.
In the language of love, the
word "my" seems a radical negation of belonging in the sense in
which an object-thing belongs to the subject-person. The analogy
preserves its functions until it falls into the meaning set
forth above. Triple lust, and in particular the lust of the
flesh, takes away from the mutual belonging of man and woman the
specific dimension of the personal analogy, in which the term
"my" preserves its essential meaning. This essential meaning
lies outside the "law of ownership," outside the meaning of
"object of possession." On the contrary, concupiscence is
directed toward the latter meaning.
From possessing, a further step
goes toward "enjoyment." The object I possess acquires a certain
meaning for me since it is at my disposal and I avail myself of
it, I use it. It is evident that the personal analogy of
belonging is decidedly opposed to this meaning. This opposition
is a sign that what "comes from the Father" in the mutual
relationship of man and woman, still persists and continues in
confrontation with what comes "from the world." However,
concupiscence in itself drives man toward possession of the
other as an object. It drives him to enjoyment, which brings
with it the negation of the nuptial meaning of the body. In its
essence, disinterested giving is excluded from selfish
enjoyment. Do not the words of God-Yahweh addressed to woman in
Genesis 3:16 already speak of this?
5. According to the first
letter of John (2:16), lust bears witness in the first place to
the state of the human spirit. It will be opportune to devote a
further analysis to this problem. We can apply Johannine
theology to the field of the experiences described in Genesis 3,
as well as to the words Christ spoke in the Sermon on the Mount
(Mt 5:27-28). We find a concrete dimension of that opposition
which—together with sin—was born in the human heart between the
spirit and the body.
Its consequences are felt in
the mutual relationship of persons, whose unity in humanity is
determined right from the beginning by the fact that they are
man and woman. "Another law at war with the law of my mind" (Rom
7:23) has been installed in man. So almost a constant danger
exists of this way of seeing, evaluating, and loving, so that
"the desire of the body" is more powerful than "the desire of
the mind." We must always keep in mind this truth about man,
this anthropological element, if we wish to understand
completely the appeal Christ made to the human heart in the
Sermon on the Mount.
Note
1) Cf., for example, Song of
Songs, 1:9, 13, 14, 15, 16; 2:2, 3, 8, 9, 10, 13, 14, 16, 17;
3:2, 4, 5; 4:1, 10; 5:1, 2, 4; 6:2, 3, 4, 9; 7:11; 8:12, 14.
Cf. also, for example, Ez 16:8; Hos 2:18; Tb 8:7.
Taken from: L'Osservatore
Romano Weekly Edition in English 4 August 1980, page 1